If you have someone special in your life with whom you know you want to spend the rest of your life, how do you treat them? Do you make sure that they know they can count on your? Do you spend quality time with them? Would they consider that to be quality time? Do you even put special times on your calendar so that more mundane events won’t get in the way? Make their well-being a high priority, encourage them to look after themselves, worry if they do not?
If you don’t, I suggest that you start.
AND, by the way, while all that does indeed hold good for anyone in your life who you truly care about, remember, too, that there is only one person with whom you KNOW you will spend the rest of your life, and that person is YOU. For any other individual, sadly, the unexpected may happen. Illness, accidents, changes of heart, all these can intrude on the most sincerely made togetherness plans. We hope not, but you are the only one that you know with total certainty that you are stuck with. Better make the best and the most of it.
How many things that you really enjoy doing, and have wanted to do, have you postponed in the last few months or more because you were too busy, or too tired, or decided to put the money elsewhere? If you are a person who always puts others first, Is there ever going to be a time when you put YOU first? Do you deserve to be always last on your list? The center of YOUR life needs to be you if you are to stay in balance. (Remember the oxygen mask analogy – if you don’t put yours on first, you may not be in a fit state to help anyone else with theirs.) Before you can give to others, you need to be healthy, happy, and to have your own needs met. What do you do to achieve and maintain this?
You ARE worth an appointment on your own calendar, not just to do routine maintenance like getting your hair cut, but for whatever lifts your spirits and brings a smile to your face. Perhaps a night at a concert, or a massage, a walk in the park or beside the river… whatever it is that you think of with a smile, or that you have always yearned to do. Do it! Do it for you! You ARE worth it.
Challenge – how about selecting at least two things every month that YOU want to do, that will help you to feel nurtured, or joyous and that, from now on, you will do, to make yourself feel well cared for? Try it! It does not need to be the same two things every month, but pick two, put them on the calendar and carry them out. And let me know…
Stay fabulous, stay balanced!
Diana
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